untitled | February 2012 | Copyright 2012
I have friends and acquaintances, mostly women, who seem to spend a lot of time apologizing. I’m sorry I didn’t get a chance to clean the kitchen. I’m sorry I’m wearing too much makeup. I’m sorry I’m a shitty friend.
While I do believe that an occasional polite apology is absolutely necessary to maintain a civil society (I’m sorry I’m late, for example), apologizing in order to deprecate ourselves is just plain sad. And also, it’s a little annoying.
Didn’t get a chance to clean the kitchen? No one cares but you. Wearing too much makeup? OWN it! You look great! Are you actually a shitty friend? If so, then please do something about it. Apologizing for being a shitty friend doesn’t make you a better friend.
I have been guilty of over-apologizing. I’ve used it as a way to point out my own perceived flaws before someone else had a chance to point them out for me. But I’ve gotten rid of old friends and acquaintances who would be rude enough to rub my face in my minor flaws, so it’s also time to get rid of that tired defense mechanism. Because the bottom line is, I rock. And so do you.
And I don't... don't do shit you need to apologize for... and like you said, "Own It"... if you're kind of an asshole, don't be sorry, roll with it...